Except that I’m totally not. Print available here.
I’m not quite sure why I’m admitting this publicly, but lately I’ve been getting a little bummed out that I’m not really part of the “blogging community.”
One of the reasons I decided to start a blog was because I love reading other people’s blogs, and I would always hear these people talk about how awesome it was to be part of the blogging community. They would write about how many amazing new friends they had made through blogging and how wonderful it was to have these incredible new people in their life. On and on they went about their awesome and supportive blogging friends, and I would sit there reading from the other side of the screen and say to myself “I want to be part of this community too! I totally want blogging friends!”
So I started this blog, and while making blogging friends was certainly not the reason I started it (by any means), I kind of assumed it would be an added benefit that would happen organically. I assumed that having this forum to write and share would lead to me connecting with all sorts of other bloggers and readers, near and far, and making new online friends.
And well, that hasn’t happened. I don’t really have any blogging friends, and as cheesy as this may sound, that kind of bums me out. I know this is really silly as I have a ton of amazing real-life friends, but for whatever reason I feel like I’m in the unpopular crew in middle school, seeking out ways to connect with the cool kids and failing miserably.
How does one make blogging friends? I just don’t know.
I read a lot of blogs, and I always try to comment on my favorites. Even when I don’t have much to say, I know how nice it feels to get comments, so I try to reach out and say something, just to let them know that I’m reading and I appreciate what they are doing and that I’m interested. And I’m not talking about blogs like Dooce or TheBloggess or other bloggers that already have book deals in progress, I’m talking about bloggers like me that are relatively new and still growing their readership and getting the swing of things. My kind of people.
I’ve taken online classes at AltSummit World Function in hopes of connecting with other bloggers, and I’ve found some really great blogs through it, but it doesn’t seem like anyone has found mine. Or maybe they have and they are just not interested? I get that… I know I can’t be everyone’s cup of tea. I’m well aware that not everyone is going to want to read my blog, but I’d like to think that there have got to be some people out there that read and relate, at least a little? My traffic shows me that people do actually stop by here. But who these people are I just don’t know. If you are one of them, I’d like to know you! I really truly would.
I want to develop relationships with other bloggers, but for whatever reasons I just can’t seem to connect. They remain elusive bloggers that I continue to read from afar, and whenever I read them writing about all their awesome blogging buddies, I get a little jealous.
How ridiculous is that? Jealousy isn’t good for anyone, and certainly not a blog.
Maybe it’s because I’m still not sure what direction this blog is going to take, as I clearly haven’t found my blogging niche. It started all about passion, and while that is still a top priority of mine, it’s pretty obvious that I haven’t been focusing on that as much lately. My friend Lindsey said that I need to find one main topic and stick to it (she suggested I continue writing more controversial pieces, a la my post on white privilege) but the thing is, I don’t know if that’s what I want to really do in this space completely. I certainly enjoy writing about things that matter (and plan on continuing to do so), but I also enjoy writing about silly things, like my obsession with the Hunger Games or a lovely Saturday at Tomales Bay.
So I just don’t know.
Anyway, that’s what I’ve been thinking about lately, and for those of you out there that do read, thank you.