Today is a good day.


Twinkies be damned, at least we are making progress in something that really matters.


Proud for our country today,
and so so happy for our LGBT brothers and sisters.

It’s a good day.

MoJune 26, 2013 - 8:42 am

<3 <3

TheresaJune 26, 2013 - 9:29 am

I was so happy listening to the news this morning! What an amazing day for equality. Makes my heart happy.

MargaretJune 26, 2013 - 11:57 am

Woo!! This was such good news this morning.

AngieJune 26, 2013 - 5:05 pm

I am so happy about this!

eileen ragan | leaner by the lakeJune 27, 2013 - 12:55 pm

And isn’t that the damned truth. So happy.

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In Which I Rant About Twinkies

Yesterday the world was a flutter with the news that Twinkies were returning to stores.

I guess I’m in the minority of people that care so little for these “treats” that I didn’t know they were off of shelves to begin with.

When I saw that all of the morning shows I watch were doing “twinkies returns!” teasers, I thought that the story was going to be all about why this was a terrible thing, and what a step backward this was in the fight against obesity.

So I was pretty surprised to see that everyone was rejoicing over this return and constantly quoting the new twinkies slogan, which is “the sweetest comeback in the history of ever.”

Because here is the thing…




They are not even food!  Anything that has a shelf life of ETERNITY is not something that you should be putting into your body!


The ingredients are not real ingredients. Five of them come from rocks.

Yes. Rocks. As in phosphate mines in Idaho, gypsum mines in Oklahoma, and oil fields in China.

I’m wish I was joking.

Don’t get me wrong, there was a time in my life where I ate twinkies. Hell, when I lived in Scotland, I may have even indulged in a deep fried one (the thought of which now makes me shudder).

But this was when I was stupid and completely ignorant about food and thought that a fruit pop tart was actually a healthy breakfast.

So all these people jumping for joy over their return?

It just boggles my mind.

I’m not trying to be a total Debbie Downer. I have a sweet tooth like no other, and when presented with something sugary and delicious and full of carbohydrates my willpower is slim to none. So if you want a spongey cake with cream, then by all means, have one! But have one made with real ingredients. As in sugar, butter, cream, etc. Not something made from 100% chemically processed crap.

When we’re living in a time in which childhood obesity is at its peak and with more than one-third of American adults being overweight, well, I had hoped that we would have made a little more progress when it comes to what we eat.

Are we as a nation still this ignorant when it comes to food?

With people buying a single box for $100 on eBay, the answer is, sadly, yes.


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TheresaJune 25, 2013 - 11:37 am

I couldn’t agree more! I don’t get why people are going so crazy over it. The ingredients alone make me never want to eat one, but they taste disgusting too! I tired one once when I was about 10, so gross. It’s so sad we’re not doing more to encourage eating REAL foods.

WhitneyJune 25, 2013 - 12:05 pm

Wow….I wasn’t even aware they were coming back….nor did I get the huge uproar when they were disappearing.

Anything that can survive Armageddon just can’t be good to eat. Not like I’ve never eaten one, but eww. I’m with you. I’d rather have a real one with eggs and butter and sugar any day.

Never buying these for my daughter. Ever. Eww eww eww

Julie / BoundJune 25, 2013 - 1:10 pm

I had no idea they were coming back, and that makes me so sad. Honestly, how is heroin illegal but these things can be purchased by six year olds and diabetics? So so so gross.

eileen ragan | leaner by the lakeJune 26, 2013 - 7:11 am

UGH! So GROSS. Why, America?

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SonjaJune 26, 2013 - 11:47 am

What a well-written post. It is disgusting that twinkies are back in stores, and that people are actually ok with it. Shame on the news people for presenting this in a positive light. Gross.

ChantalJune 30, 2013 - 5:29 pm

totally agree. twinkies are repulsive.

EnriqueMay 23, 2014 - 1:41 pm

You are all idiots. You’d rather eat things with sugar. Sugar can give you diabetes. There’s rock Ingredients in so many things you eat. I bet you never even tried one. You just judge them for no reason. I’d rather see you get diabetes. P.s. You are still stupid.

AndyMay 23, 2014 - 1:46 pm

Your all repulsive . They are good and you people are crap. Your so dumb. I agree with enrique

LuisMay 23, 2014 - 1:55 pm

They aren’t gross. This is a horrible post. Your so dumb. No one but me , Andy and enrique are smart.

SerenaMay 23, 2014 - 1:58 pm

Hi Andy aka Luis aka Enrique! Wow, you must really like Twinkies over there in Chicago! Your IP address tells me that you are all the same person and that you’re in Chicago, so no need to keep pretending to be multiple people! Have a nice day and enjoy that artificially preserved bundle of chemicals knowns as a twinkie! I actually hope you don’t get diabetes, because that would suck, so try not to eat too many.

GabenMarch 6, 2015 - 5:47 am


It’s Friday I’m in Love!

A few things I’m loving on this particular Friday…


Well, I love wine all of the time
but I’m particularly loving it right now
because as I write this* I’m two glasses deep
and I’m drinking my lovely wine club wine
(which may be the best decision I have ever made while slightly intoxicated).
Last night was summer solstice
and Kevin and I sat on the roof and toasted to our life
and our future plans
and it was wonderful.
Kevin + Wine + Friday = Love.


Humans of New York.
Sometimes people are just awesome, and they are so beautifully depicted on this site.

Q: “If you could give one piece of advice to a large group of people, what would it be?”
A: “Be kind and thoughtful.”
Q: “What’s your greatest struggle right now?”
A: “Being kind and thoughtful. Because I’ve got some friends that are driving me freaking nuts.”


Princesses of Long Island.
You guys, I just discovered this show (thank you Andrea!)
and it’s my new favorite. I am obsessed.
“Shabbat salom go f*ck yourself.”
I mean, can reality TV get any better?
If you like really terribly bad reality television, please watch the trailer and enjoy!
(And if you already watch it, um… is it me or is Amanda’s boyfriend actually a closeted gay man?)
TV at it’s finest!

I’m not sure why, but I am dying to see The Bling Ring.
The more I see clips and advertisements for it, the more I’m sucked in.
It looks so good.
Also? When did Hermione get so hot?
Emma Watson has it going on.


And there you have it!
A few things I’m loving today.
What about you?


*This was written Thursday night, and not early Friday morning.
Lest you think I’m a total alcoholic that drinks early in the AM, I wanted to clarify.
(Because we all know I only drink in the AM on weekends)
Just kidding!
(not really)

RebeccaJune 21, 2013 - 9:06 am

Ahhhh wine 🙂 I may or may not have drank a half a bottle of Moscato last night. And by that I mean I did. 😀 Some days, yah know?

nancy @ adore to adornJune 21, 2013 - 11:11 am

Oh wine…who doesn’t love a good glass to toast with?! =D

StephanieJune 21, 2013 - 11:32 am

OMG I’m also hooked on Princesses Long Island now. A friend mentioned it over the weekend so on Monday I had a little marathon while I was editing. I can’t believe I hesitated before ever watching that show.

Also, thanks so much for sharing that Humans of New York link! I’ve never heard of that site but I just spent a good half hour browsing around checking out the photos and stories. 🙂

Julie / BoundJune 21, 2013 - 2:47 pm

I have not checked out this Long Island phenomenon. Looks like I have to now!

BriJune 22, 2013 - 9:52 pm

Haha… I love your disclaimer at the end!

And, that show looks great! {I love reality tv!}

MoJune 24, 2013 - 8:30 am

This human’s of New York thing – I love it! Also, love you guys toasting to your life and your future. Also, just love you guys. That’s it.

What If Money Was No Object?

Well, if there was a bad blogger award, I think I’d be in the running. My lack of posts lately is astonishing really!

But life has been busy and sometimes when I’m busy the last thing I want to do is come home and write a blog post, so there you have it.

But! I do have some very exciting things on the horizon, that I’ll hopefully be able to share with you all soon.

In the meantime, I came across this video earlier in the week and thought it was incredibly apropos in light of my post from Friday.

It asks the question we all asked last week, “what if money was no object?

How would you really enjoy spending your life?

And then it actually answers it in a way that leaves you inspired.

My favorite part?

“If you say that getting the money is the most important thing, you will spend your life completely wasting your time. You’ll be doing things you don’t like doing in order to go on living, that is to go on doing things you dont like doing, which is stupid!”

It’s only three minutes long, and well worth it.


Happy Thursday!

ChantalJune 30, 2013 - 5:28 pm

I am def a way worse blogger than you (because it is totally a contest!). hope you had a good weekend!

What Would You Do If You Weren’t Afraid?


I had my beloved book club earlier this week, and the selected book was Lean In by Sheryl Sandberg. Usually at our book clubs there are at least a few girls that haven’t finished the book (or sometimes even started), so I was pleasantly surprised to find out that every single one of us had read it completely.

While I definitely didn’t agree with all of Sheryl’s views (to be honest, there was quite a bit that rubbed me the wrong way), I was still left with some major takeaways about women in the workforce. There are so many invisible systems in place that make it easier for men to succeed than women, and while we have made a lot of progress, sexism is alive and well. This wasn’t a surprise to me as most of my professional experiences have taken place in very male-dominated environments, but seeing the facts laid out so clearly is always jarring.

But perhaps more importantly, a huge takeaway for me was that we (as in women) frequently hold ourselves back. We often don’t go after our dream jobs out of fear. Fear that we’re not ready. Fear that we won’t be able to spend time with our families. Fear of judgement. And in comparison to women, men don’t really have these fears. They go for things regardless if they’re qualified or not, while women often don’t. So as women we have to stop holding ourselves back. To not let fear stop us from reaching for our goals or achieving our dreams.

One of the recurring themes of the book was the question “what would you do if you weren’t afraid,” so my friend Shannon asked all of us what it was that we would do if we weren’t afraid.

What would you do if you weren’t afraid?

And here’s the thing… as ridiculous as it might sound, at first, some of us were afraid of even answering that question. Publicly declaring what our real hopes and dreams were, out loud, to a group of people (even when the group was full of awesome supportive girlfriends), well, it was kind of scary.

But as we talked about this, the question started to morph from “what would you do if you weren’t afraid” to “what would you do if money weren’t an issue,” because for a lot of us, it’s our fear of not having the money we need to support ourselves that is holding us back. Once the question was asked like that, the conversation seemed to flow easier.

Almost everyone said that they would quit their job and pursue things that they were truly passionate about, things like design, cooking, writing, art. We would travel more. Start our own businesses. Find an organization that we are passionate about and work with it. You know, all those things that “everyone wants to do” and that only a few are actually able to make a successful living at.

But over the past few days I’ve been thinking, is it really money that is holding me back? Because if I’m being honest with myself, really honest, I’m not necessarily sure it is. Yes, money does pose a huge obstacle, and that fear is a very real and valid fear for sure, but what I’m afraid of more than that is the fear of failure. Of trying something I think I’m going to love, and then failing at it. Or, and I’m not sure which is worse, trying something that I’m so sure I’m going to love and then realizing… I just don’t. Where would I be then?

While I can’t speak for others, I know that I definitely downplayed some of my own dreams out of fear, though even now I’m not sure what exactly it was that I was afraid of. Fear that my friends would think my dreams were stupid? That they were unrealistic? That I wasn’t smart/strong/talented/[insert insecurity here!] enough to actually achieve them? I suppose a little of all of that.

The little/vague things are easy to talk about. It was easy for me to say that I wanted to be my own boss, to work with people who inspire me, and to find a way to combine my love of writing with my passion for travel and international education, while still making enough money to live a good life in San Francisco and travel often. The totally outrageous things are easy to talk about, too. Things like “I want someone to pay me to travel the world while I eat and drink and write about it!” because really, who doesn’t want that?

But the big things? Those are a lot scarier to admit. Things like “I want to be a published author!” Things like “I want to create a more cohesive blogger network for bloggers in the bay area!” Things like “I want to find a way to encourage college students to step outside their comfort zone and study abroad in programs and places that will make them more socially responsible and globally conscious people!” Because those things are all so different and HUGE and daunting and OMG what if I suck at all of them and where do I even start?

Also? All of those things would require me to be serious about changing my life.

And that is scary.

So what would I do if I wasn’t afraid? A lot of things.

I want to do something purposeful with my life, and though I might not know what exactly that is right now, I’m certainly not going to figure it out by sitting on the sidelines.

So the first thing I’m going to stop doing is being afraid to even try.

There have been more times than I would like to admit that I’ve stopped myself from going after something solely for fear of the possible rejection. Or times where I’ve made excuse after excuse about why it wasn’t right for me, when really, I was just afraid. Afraid of being rejected, yes, but also of the work that I would have to do if I wasn’t rejected. Or, like I mentioned above, the fear that I wouldn’t love it as much as I had hoped, and admit failure and have to start all over again when I’m even older than I am now.

But no one said living a life with intention and pursuing a life you are passionate about was easy!


Now it’s your turn. What would YOU do if you weren’t afraid? Please let me know in the comments below!

(And if, like me, even writing those things down is kind of scary, feel free to use a fake email and comment anonymously.)

Cheers to Friday and to not being afraid!

P.S. The What Would You Do If You Weren’t Afraid website has a constant upload of awesome, inspiring, and often hilarious things people would do if they weren’t afraid. And from the looks of it, the world would be a much happier place if we were all just a little less scared of everything!

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StephanieJune 14, 2013 - 7:18 am

I REALLY needed to read this today. The two things that have plagued my career and my personal life have been my inability to define what I want and being AFRAID to go after it.

I want to be a published author. I want to split my life between the city and the beach. Ahh, I feel better.

May have to steal this conversation for my own blog and I will definitely link to yours. Thanks! Have a great weekend.

Julie / BoundJune 14, 2013 - 8:53 am

Uh, yes. I know for a fact that I’m holding myself back out of fear a lot of the time. And I feel fine about declaring my big, BIG hopes because they’re so hard to obtain…therefore they’re in the future and no action is required of me right now. Right? Um, no. If I want to make over the entire LA foster care system AND write a book AND have multiple children, then I should be getting my ass all of the way in gear NOW.

Girl, this was one epic push of a post. Really loved it. Maybe the desire to define/working on these goals was the reason for your slump and getting into them will pull you into the next creative phase!

ChantalJune 14, 2013 - 11:22 am

my book club read this book too. like you, I didn’t agree with everything, but certain parts def struck a cord with me. until this post, I didn’t really think about what else I am afraid to do. when I was reading, I was thinking about fear in my current job. this isn’t my dream job for but a while there I was really liking it. then I stopped. I realized, I was bored and unchallenged, but also afraid to take on more. I decided not to be afraid and to act like I thought a man would. I asked for a meeting with my boss to discuss my career. we talked about how I would be doing and what I wanted. I told him I wanted to do more challenging things and take on more on my own. he said he was thrilled to hear it and happy to help. he said he was waiting for me to step up. since then (just a month ago) he has already given me new, much more challenging tasks. one was this week. it resulted in my crying in front of him, but man did I learn from it. he was understanding and reassuring. leaning in has def made me happier at my non-dream job 🙂

TheresaJune 14, 2013 - 1:41 pm

I loved this post! I’ve been wanted to read that book, I think it should be next on my reading list.

I was nodding my head as I read about being afraid to even answer the question. Why is it so scary to say our true dreams out loud? I always care too much about what other people think, that is part of my problem. There is so much I want to do, but am too afraid to try, which is silly.

Also, love the bay area blogger network idea 🙂 You and Stephanie did a great job with the meet up! That was a good start 🙂

Hope you have a great weekend. Thanks for this thought provoking post.

JessicaJune 20, 2013 - 6:42 pm

Yup, I want too want to travel and eat my way through the world. Is that so wrong?! And I want to rescue every stray dog. Loved this post and the money post above. We all need to ask ourselves the hard questions and then not be afraid of the answers. I living a good life takes work, but if it’s really what you want to do it won’t seem like work! But obviously, it will be harder in the beginning Gosh, starting something is always the hardest part. XO!

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