Sugar Baby

As I’ve written about before, I’ve been trying to get back into a healthier lifestyle for 2013 (and ideally forever on), so lately I’ve been reading a lot about health and nutrition and diets and yadda yadda yadda. I’ve been working on eating less carbs and more fruits and vegetables, and I’m proud of myself for that. Everyone has their own views on how you should be eating (paleo! south beach! gluton free! dairy is the devil! etc. etc.), but for me, I believe as long as you eat real food, from real ingredients, combined with a decent amount of veggies, you’re doing okay.

So when I saw the infographic below, I found it incredibly interesting but enormously depressing. It’s all about sugar.

Sugar sugar sugar.

And I’m sorry, but what the eff? One apple and you’ve already exceeded your suggested sugar intake for the day?

Last night I started looking up the sugar counts of some of the foods I eat most often. I usually have a turkey sandwich for lunch, but sometimes, if I want to be healthy, I’ll have a big delicious bowl of fresh fruit or a green smoothie.

But now I’m confused. I did the math, and the sandwich that I eat has barely any sugar in it (8 grams), while my fruit bowl has almost 50! However, my sandwich is swimming in carbs, while my fruit bowl is not. So what’s worse? Carbs or sugar? What is one to do? Ahhhh!

See the depressing facts for yourself:

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Based on that diagram, I might as well just be eating oreos!

AshFebruary 12, 2013 - 11:39 am

honestly, the sugar you get from whole foods is COMPLETELY different than the processed shit. i wouldn’t worry about eating those apples (: as long as you are not eating a high fat diet, you can eat all the whole foods you want- sugary or non (:

StephanieFebruary 12, 2013 - 11:58 am

Honestly, I think people tend to make a big deal out of sugar in general without looking at what else goes along with the sugar. I tend to view it the same way I view calories. There are empty calories and nutritious calories (the high calories in an oreo vs. the high calories of an avocado, for example). I think sugar is the same way – empty sugar and nutritious sugar. An apple may exceed the “recommended” sugar for the day but there are so many other great nutrients and vitamins that make it worth it. Whereas a chocolate chip cookie has little to no nutritional value and a lot of empty, useless sugar. I also think there’s a big difference between artificial sugars and sweeteners and the stuff Mother Nature included to make those foods appeal to us so we’ll eat them again and again. I think being healthy ultimately comes down to common sense and moderation. Graphs and charts can be misleading or misinformed. Eliminating entire food groups based on viewing one particular ingredient as “bad” just seems dumb to me.
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StephanieFebruary 12, 2013 - 12:02 pm

PS – I remember bringing this up with my doc because diabetes runs in our family and she told me that your brain actually needs the sugar that comes from fruits, veggies, and grains (glucose, I think). Apparently it’s the only type of fuel your brain cells can use so if you eliminate or severely restrict those types of whole, natural sugars from your diet, you’re actually doing harm to your brain and not allowing it to operate at its fullest. Obviously too much of anything is bad, but you still need at least some sugar in your diet!
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AllisonFebruary 12, 2013 - 1:00 pm

Just try to stay away from food containing high-fructose corn syrup / sweeteners. Good types of fructose and glucose are naturally found in fruits and vegetables.

I agree – “eat real food, from real ingredients, combined with a decent amount of veggies.” I’d add that if you eat regular portions, you’ll be ok!

JessicaFebruary 12, 2013 - 1:21 pm

I’m screwed then! Is this what you are going to try and give up for Lent? PS Your mom is too funny!
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Julie / BoundFebruary 12, 2013 - 2:00 pm

I’m with you on the “real foods” concept. I think the frustrating thing about this is that even carbohydrates like sandwich bread basically are sugar…just more complex. That’s why I dig the paleo concept, because most of your food intake is coming from sources (like meat and vegetables) that have no sugars at all. Aaaaaand then I can save my sugar intake for frozen yogurt. Which is not paleo in the slightest and I do not care at all. haha!
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nicole marieFebruary 13, 2013 - 10:13 am

ok there’s no way they can say that eating strawberries is worse than eating a twinkie… get serious. there’s a difference between natural sugars and processed sugars. so unless you have a sugar problem… eat those fruits away! obviously like you said everyone has their own idea of what’s healthy and iagree with you that eating the most natural foods is best

Let’s Get Mortified!

On Friday night Kevin and I went and saw Mortified, a knee-slapping funny comedy show in which adults get on stage and read from their teenage diaries. As the website describes: “Hear grown men and women confront their past with tales of their first kiss, first puff, worst prom, fights with mom, life at bible camp, worst hand job, best mall job, and reasons they deserved to marry Jon Bon Jovi.”

There are chapters of it located throughout the U.S., so if you haven’t seen it, I suggest you go check and see if it comes to your town. If it does, buy tickets immediately.
It’s hilarious. I promise you it’s worth it.

The show started off with the host asking for audience volunteers to participate in a Harry Met Sally orgasm contest.

Oh yes, you read that correctly.

People from the audience volunteered to come onstage and have a fake orgasm.

And the volunteers? They were fantastic!

To get up onstage and give your absolute best all-out-screaming-from-the-top-of-your-lungs fake orgasm, well, it takes courage and confidence that I just don’t have. Major props.

The show just got better from there. I was laughing so hard I was crying.

The venue was packed, and we ended up standing right next to a group of fun looking people,
a few of which we had talked to while waiting in line.
Our “line friends,” if you will.

Normally when Kevin and I do things like this, we go with a group of friends. It’s rare that we go to a concert or show just the two of us. While we love spending time together, we are together so much that sometimes we don’t have a lot to talk about. If you know us, you also know that we love meeting new people and making new friends.
Kevin in particular is quite skilled in the art of meeting strangers.

Without even talking about it, Kevin and I both started to do what we do when we are in crowded places and want to make new friends. Anytime Kevin would say something funny, he would say it VERY LOUDLY, in hopes that someone around us would hear his funny witty remark and decide to join our conversation. While Kevin was doing that, I started to inch closer to our “line friends” so that I could eavesdrop without it looking like I was trying to eavesdrop. That way, whenever someone said something funny, I could laugh with them like I was part of the conversation!

Though this sounds incredibly awkward (and can be if executed incorrectly), this approach usually works for us, and after about a half an hour, the group next to us had welcomed us in!  We were laughing and joking with them as if we were all old pals.

When the show ended, two of our new friends asked if we wanted to get a drink! Success!

Now, Kevin and I knew these people were younger than us, but it wasn’t until we were out of the show, on the street, that our age differences became apparent. The girl was super cute, fresh-faced and hipstery, with a helmet attached to her jeans since she had rode there on her bike. The guy was equally hip looking, wearing some indie band shirt and some hipster hat. I, on the other hand, had come straight from work, and my business casual attire made me feel more uncool than usual. They were both 24.

I had been about to do a yelp search to see if there were any wine bars we could go to, when they started talking about cool warehouse parties, and asked if there were any good clubs nearby. Kevin and I looked at each other anxiously. We were all about grabbing some drinks, but a club was a little too out of our old person comfort zone. I told them that the bar at the restaurant across the street looked fun! They did not look quite so enthused, but went with it.

I am no age snob by any means, but as the night wore on it became more and more clear to me that I am old. As much as I like to think I am still a young early twenty-something, alas, I am not.

I learned about new bars and clubs that I’ve never heard of, music that is apparently all the rage, and the new drugs that the young’ins are doing these days (wtf is DMT?!?!). Our new friends tried to convince us to go to Burning Man with them. Kevin told them that ship had sailed for him, and I said that I was old enough to know that walking around naked in a desert and getting sand in my vagina just wasn’t something that really appealed to me.

As the night wore on I got more comfortable with our new friends, so when I suggested we take a group photo, I kind of sort of grabbed her boob. She looked momentarily alarmed, but Kevin told her to just go with it, it’s what I do, and I believe I said “this means we are real friends now!”


Please excuse the crappy quality. My iPhone camera sucks.

By 1 am I was trying hard to suppress my yawns, lest I show my age, but when they suggested we move on to some cool new place I’d never heard of, Kevin and I decided to end the facade and call it a night. We said goodbye to our new friends, exchanged numbers, and hopped in a taxi.

When I woke up the next morning, feeling less than stellar,
I said to Kevin “last night made me feel old.”

His response?

“You are old.”

Ugh. Say it ain’t so.

MargaretFebruary 11, 2013 - 6:52 am

Haha! When we were in Vegas on our honeymoon, we started talking to a woman that was older than us (mid-30s; we’re both in our mid-20s). It was only when her husband, who was at least twice her age came over to join the group, that we realized it was super awkward and made our get away!
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ritaFebruary 11, 2013 - 7:50 am

ha, this is my life every summer when the interns come. last summer i freaked out when i realized i was now their old married boss vs. someone cool at work. gross. oh well, getting older means way worse hangovers but better clothes, better wine, and more general happiness. i think i can take it!:)
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MichelleFebruary 11, 2013 - 9:32 am

hahah…awesome story.

And just so you know, you can grab my boob any day. any time.

AliceFebruary 11, 2013 - 1:35 pm

This made me chuckle- I’m only 23, and at work I keep making my 30-something-year-old colleagues laugh by going “Oh my god I’m so old, I don’t even know who’s number one this week!”. So maybe it goes both ways? I’m definitely old before my time though, haha! x

Rich KrawczykFebruary 11, 2013 - 3:27 pm

DMT is the common name for the hallucinogenic drug N,N-dimethyltryptamine. It’s supposed to be similar to psilocybin, and is found naturally in the brain and is thought to play an important role in dreaming and near-death experiences. It’s usually smoked or ingested and can result in intense hallucinogenic and psychedelic states.

When death is near, the DMT that is naturally stored in the brain is released. It provides pain relief and an out of body experience which is said to help the dying person let go of life.

When smoked, the high lasts only 15 or 20 minutes, but you feel so incredibly good – it’s like being “reborn”.

It’s very hard to find as hardly anyone sells the stuff! So if your new found friends know where to get some – I’m in!

Oh, and by the way, wait till you hit your sixties, I can practically guarantee you’ll have additional perspectives on “being old” then! Ha!

KevinFebruary 12, 2013 - 8:17 am

Nice knowledge Uncle Rich!

SerenaFebruary 12, 2013 - 10:43 am

@Rich – ……. and this is why you are Kevin’s favorite uncle!

Something Funny For Your Friday

I came across this video on another blog and laughed so hard that I knew I had to share it here.

There’s a good chance you’ve already seen it as Kevin said he’s seen a few other people link to it (like usual, I seem to be late to the gone-viral party), but if not, it is completely worth 10 minutes of your time.

It’s two Dutch guys who go to a doctor in order to simulate what the child birth experience is like for women. SIck of hearing women complain about it, they decide to check it out for themselves.

It is HILARIOUS!

Now, I’ve never given birth (obviously) so I have no idea how accurate this kind of simulation is, but it made me laugh so hard MY stomach started to hurt.

(and let me tell you, it’s certainly not helping my lack of baby fever, that’s for sure.)

Enjoy!

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Happy Friday friends! I hope all you Northeasterners are staying safe and dry!

StephanieFebruary 11, 2013 - 8:48 am

I had not seen that video before but it was amazing. Those guys were cracking me up! And they didn’t even simulate what I think seems to be the worst part – actually squeezing the baby out!
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SerenaFebruary 11, 2013 - 9:56 am

@Stephanie – I’m happy you found this amusing. Usually my posts get at least a couple of comments, but since this one got nothing, I was wondering if I just have this really off sense of humor! I mean, I was cracking up watching them! Like laughing out loud in my office. I just find them so funny!

nicole marieFebruary 11, 2013 - 2:05 pm

oh my gosh…ddyyyiiinnnggggg…. that was hysterical!! i think every man should have to do that… and only for 2 hours! if only real labor was only 2 hours

Happy Birthday to my Blog

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Today marks my first blog anniversary. My blogiversary, as others in blog land call it.

Well, to be honest, my first actual post was on New Years Eve 2011, but it was more a test post (as evident by my teeny tiny photos). On February 7th of last year I posted a picture of me and some friends watching the Superbowl, and from that point on I’ve consistently posted at least three times a week.

The comments I received from my post yesterday just confirmed how much I love having my own little space in the world wide web. My blog might be small, but my readership is authentic, and I love the relationships I’ve developed with some of you, and that I am continuing to develop with all of you reading this.

My most popular posts continue to be “Engagement Pictures Are Awkward” and “On Being White and Privileged” which is kind of funny to me, considering that they couldn’t be more different.
Then again, it’s probably a very accurate portrayal of who I am.

As I said yesterday, my blog personality and my real life personality are one and the same. I say bad words (sometimes a big old F-bomb is just necessary). I drink alcohol. I’m a proud liberal democrat. I don’t write about Jesus. I laugh at stupid things. I grab my friends’ boobs.  It’s who I am.

As my friend Nancy said in a comment regarding having a blog, “as vain and as shallow as the surface seems, it’s really fulfilling for my mental health.”

And it’s true. This blog makes me so happy, and I really do think that having an outlet like this helps keep me sane.

(My husband agrees.)

So to all of you out there reading, thank you, thank you, thank you!

You really are the bees knees!

nancy @ adore to adornFebruary 7, 2013 - 12:01 pm

HAPPY BIRTHDAY to your blog!!! Time flies doesn’t it?
I for one am so thrilled to have come across your blog. Your posts are really great and you bring depth to my daily reads. =)
Oh…and thank you for the shout-out in this post. =) It’s so true with the mental health. =)
xo,
nancy

LindseyFebruary 7, 2013 - 12:10 pm

Happy Blogiversary!!

StephanieFebruary 7, 2013 - 12:42 pm

Happy blogiversary!! I’m so glad I discovered you and your blog. And I hope you’re planning to eat a rainbow cake today because that would be awesome, and very San Francisco. :)
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AliceFebruary 7, 2013 - 12:49 pm

Happy blog birthday!! I really love reading your posts, and your blog was one of those which inspired me to finally take the plunge and start my own baby blog! Keep being yourself, and keep posting as you do- I love it! x

Julie / BoundFebruary 7, 2013 - 1:01 pm

Yay for blogaversaries, and yay for new friends! So excited to have found you, and glad that we can all protect our mental health in such a fun way :)
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MargaretFebruary 7, 2013 - 1:25 pm

I always love how real your posts are- so much easier to relate to!! Happy blogiversary :)
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KevinFebruary 7, 2013 - 1:57 pm

Do I have to get you a present made of paper for this too?
How about a nice bottle of wine waiting for you at home instead?

SerenaFebruary 7, 2013 - 2:01 pm

@Kevin – Um, the answer is YES to both. Duh.
P.S. I love you.

StephanieFebruary 8, 2013 - 1:27 pm

Happy Blogiversary! So excited to be your blog friend and wish you all the best. I enjoy checking in on your life, so please continue to “overshare.” :)

Blogging and Real Life


The other day a friend of mine gave me some (unsolicited) feedback about my blog, which was 1) I share too much; and 2) I post really weird stuff. I don’t think she told me this trying to be rude. We had previously been talking about blog growth, and how sometimes I come across blogs that are barely a year old and have thousands of followers, even though they have what I consider to be shit content, while other bloggers that I love and find hilarious and are phenomenal writers have barely a hundred. Since my blog is still small, I think she offered this feedback as a sort of constructive criticism.

For some reason, because this came from someone I know in real life, it rubbed me the wrong way. I’m fine with anonymous internet lurkers telling me my blog sucks (though my blog is still small enough that hasn’t really happened), but to get not the most positive of feedback from someone in real life just made me uncomfortable.

I don’t mind being told that I post really weird stuff, because hey, I am a bit weird, and I know what I find funny or amusing others might find the complete opposite. But the sharing too much got me thinking. I try to be as real as I can on this blog, because for me, those are my favorite kind of blogs. Bloggers that share real things about their lives are those I tend to connect with the most. Granted, it would be impossible for any blog to depict one’s whole life, and I’d never share anything that could have a negative impact on those around me, but I do try to be as “me” as possible here on my little blog. I think that if you met me in real life you’d find that my blog personality and my real personality are one and the same. But I certainly don’t want to overshare and turn people off.

For the most part, whenever my blog comes up in real life I immediately say “it’s just a silly little hobby.” Kevin, along with many of my friends, have told me to stop downplaying it because it’s not “silly” and it’s a hobby that makes me happy, and many people out there make a living from this “silly hobby.” This “silly hobby” has introduced me to a lot of people that I consider friends, and I’ve developed new relationships with awesome people because of it.

Yet for some reason I have a hard time talking about it in real life. It seems too self promoting to me, perhaps because I don’t have a niche, so to say. I’m not a fashion blogger. I’m not living the expat life somewhere fabulous. I don’t do crafts or post about awesome DIYs. I don’t share incredible recipes. I’m child free so the mommy blogger category is out. Nor am I a Mormon hipster. For the most part, I just write about me. About my life. And I suppose I find it a bit narcissistic to tell people to “read my blog in which I write all about myself!”

I know that if I ever want my blog to grow (which is what all bloggers want, no matter what they say), I need to get over that. But I’m not sure how.

Do any of you other personal/lifestyle bloggers struggle with similar thoughts? For those of you that read blogs, what do you think?

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MichelleFebruary 6, 2013 - 10:27 am

First of all, if your friend thinks YOU share too much, tell her to head over to my blog where I talk about travel diarrhea.
Secondly, this is a blog about You and Your life. You can share whatever you’d like. I absolutely hate those blogs that have no Substance, you know what I mean? I can’t stand the blogs that are all, “oooh i love life and rainbows and puppies and I had a salad today! yayyy!” No. Please. Just stop.
Thirdly, I had the same feelings when I was starting up with blogging as far as talking about it in “real life.” I never really wanted people to know I had one, especially close friends. I wanted random strangers I never knew to read it, but it took me awhile to actually be comfortable talking about it with people I knew. Now, meh. I don’t care. If they like it, they like it. If they don’t, they don’t. Ultimately, it’s what makes you happy. I blog because I like it. Done deal. If I can grow it and make money too, great. If not, I’m still doing something that’s fun.

BOOM.
Hope you liked that novel. :)

xoxo

SerenaFebruary 6, 2013 - 10:53 am

@Michelle – ahahaha! thank you for this (and you don’t even want to know how many of my conversations this past weekend revolved around diarrhea, which is why I love your blog). I’m emailing you to chat more :)

Serena, I absolutely adore your blog. I was trying to remember how I came across it, which is probably from following Michelle. I think you hit the nail right on the head when you were discussing blogs with great content and few followers versus those that have thousands of followers. A few months ago, I got really frustrated with that concept. I wrote this long, elaborate post on how I felt about crap content blogs and as someone who loves to blog, it made me upset that some of my favorite blog’s content was taking a turn for the worst. I would visit some of their pages and giveaways are fun, but it was a constant giveaway, guest post, or review. I hadn’t seen a true content post in months from them. One of these blogs actually got called out on it by anonymous follower, which is something I would never do, but the blogger got upset. I think it was a good lesson for her because she started producing better quality content, basically the stuff she started out writing.

I don’t think your blog is a silly hobby, because I love reading your posts and your blog is one that I continually check on my Google Reader feed. Keep on writing and sharing!

Kim :)

nicole marieFebruary 6, 2013 - 11:00 am

i know it’s hard not to take what other people, especially your friends, to heart but honestly you have to write and blog about what makes you happy. that’s the point of all this anyways right? i think as long as you’re not hurting anyone, write away!

just like real life, blog world is another place to compare yourself to everyone else and everyone else’s life. i think my blog isn’t cool enough because i’m not married hahah.

i basically never tell real life people about my blog unless my friends or family tell them. i get so embarrassed because i feel like it’s such a narcissistic thing and if they don’t have a blog i’m sure they think it’s really weird. because it is weird. you put your life, stories, thoughts and feelings all out there on the internet for everyone to see, it’s weird.

one of the biggest things i struggle with in blogging, is making sure i’m not portraying myself to be someone i’m not. I don’t want people to think i’m portraying myself as this ah so perfect life prancing around europe and have had the easiest life ever. i want my blog to be something i can look back on years from now and look at all my memories which means blogging far more happy things and trying to look at the positive in a less than happy situation. there have been a crap ton of situations i would have liked to share, get off my chest, or blast all over the internet for revenge sake. not sure where i’m going with this but the point is, i like that you share a lot.

once, a guy i was interested in/dating (using that word loosely ;)) , found out about my blog and i was so embarrassed. i didn’t want him to think i was weird and my rroommate said, “nic, it’s not weird to have a blog. everyone has a blog. you’re weird if you DON’T have a blog”… so yeah that’s how i’m trying to think about it now.

loonnnggeesstt cccoommmeeennnttt eeevvveeerrr :)

BrendaFebruary 6, 2013 - 12:12 pm

Serena,

I came across your blog a few weeks ago and I love it! You’re so witty and are full of personality. The main reason I follow your blog is b/c you live in San Francisco because I love that city!! So keep blogging because I am going to keep reading!!

Julie / BoundFebruary 6, 2013 - 1:10 pm

I feel you in the most major of ways. I always downplay my blog if it comes up in public…I’d love to have a bigger readership, but I’d die of embarrassment if it seemed like I were asking my friends to indulge me in reading silly stuff. Isn’t it strange, though…when my friends have blogs, I love to read them! Totally look forward to it. Bizarre.

Jenn from Much to My DelightFebruary 6, 2013 - 1:41 pm

Your content is weird? Good! That means it’s not like everyone else’s. You don’t fit into a blogging niche? Even better! Forge your own path. Create your own niche. I have one of the blogs that does not have a lot of readers, mostly because I just don’t have the energy or interest to interrupt my life to promote myself in a way that would garner a huge readership. I keep doing it (sporadically, if I’m being honest) because of the fun feedback I get from friends about it (they really, really motivate me to keep doing it, so I can see why getting an off-color remark from someone you know could sting) and because I’ve always loved to write in the first-person. Keep doing what you’re doing. You have a strong voice and original content–I’d like to keep reading it!!

Erin @ Empirically ErinFebruary 6, 2013 - 2:42 pm

Serena, I love your blog. I’ve never felt that you share too much or that you blog about weird stuff. My blog is like yours in that I talk about life and don’t really have a niche, but that’s something I like. If I want to talk about fashion, I can. If I want to talk about anything, I can. I love that you are genuine and that you are yourself. I also can totally relate to not liking to talk about your blog in real life. I feel the same way. Someone at work found my blog and loved it but when she brought it up, I just didn’t even know what to say!
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nancy @ adore to adornFebruary 6, 2013 - 2:57 pm

OH where do I begin with how much I relate to on this post of your’s?
First of all…your friend was very likely intending the comments to be well intentioned…but as we all know, the road to hell can often be paved with well intentions. Personally, I love that you “tell it like it is.” It’s why I keep coming back to read your stories and see how much more we have in common. Often, blogs nowadays are filled with (as you say) “shit content” and the idea of being “perfect” is unattainable and slightly annoying. After all, no one likes to read how one’s life sucks…we have our own sucky life to deal with.

Blogs are great when the people who write them are themselves. Sure the “big name” bloggers seem a bit too perfect and have a following that seems unreal but, they are still staying themselves (for the most part). Their lives are glamorized because readers make them appear that way but they are, for all intents and purposes, just doing what they do. It’s the group of people who are trying to be “just like them” that make all blogs seem “fake.” The “follow for a follow” aspect (which is hugely annoying and even slightly offensive…is my content not “good enough” for you if I don’t follow you back?) is what drives so many but blogs like your’s are what make them a keeper.

Sure, everyone wants to be successful in their hobby. How amazing would it be to be making money off of something you enjoy doing? If only we could all be so fortunate. But, don’t compromise who you are. There will always be critics. Perhaps your friend wouldn’t do what you do (and in many ways, your friend wants to protect you too I’m sure) but everyone has their own way of handling content.

Personally, I also do not talk about my blog with any of my friends. I don’t even know if they know I have one to be honest. It seems odd…I post about myself, photos even, and yet, I am too shy/modest/embarrassed to bring the topic up. Of course, my husband supports me…but if he didn’t then I’d be royally screwed. Like you…it’s just my hobby. I’d likely be going crazy without it. As vain and as shallow as the surface seems, it’s really fulfilling for my mental health. =)

Sorry for the babble…

xo,
nancy
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SerenaFebruary 6, 2013 - 4:25 pm

Thank you to everyone that commented! I responded to each of you personally via email, so if you haven’t already, check your inbox :) It makes me feel better to know that I’m not the only one out there that gets super awkward about their blog when it comes up in real life!

JessicaFebruary 6, 2013 - 7:47 pm

I don’t think any of your blog content is weird! Maybe sometimes random, but not weird. And I love it. That’s why I read your blog, because I love the content you put out. And I think part of blogging is sharing. You want to connect with your readers and start a conversation. I blog about myself and share, because that’s what I know and that’s what I want to put out there. I don’t really tell any acquaintances about my blog- strange maybe. But I actually prefer sharing and engaging with people in the blog world, usually readers offer the best input. I do get kind of embarrassed when friends bring it up- it’s because when people don’t have a blog they don’t really understand. Bloggers are a certain special type of people and we “get” each other.
XO! Keep doing your thing!
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EuniceFebruary 6, 2013 - 8:11 pm

I’m always drawn to blogs where people tell it like it is so keep it up. by the way you have your own niche – non-expat/non-mommy/non-fashion/non-foodie blogger that you are. I’m sure there are quite a number of us who fall into that category ::finger pointing at myself:::

I keep a blog mostly for personal reasons. If people stumble upon it, all good. And yes, i’d love tons of followers too but for the most part, it’s fun just to have that ability to go back into the archives and see what I was up to a year or two (or three) ago. Life can be a blur so it’s great to have that record even if it’s out in the open for everyone to see. If it makes you happy, then why stop?

Keep it real,
E

VeronicaFebruary 7, 2013 - 10:05 am

I’ve been a reader for a while, but have never commented. I laughed so hard when you said you are not a Mormon hipster, I couldn’t NOT comment! Love your blog and I love that you say what so many are thinking and are AFRAID to say.

Keep doing what you are doing! :)

StephanieFebruary 7, 2013 - 12:59 pm

Whoever thinks you share too much must not read many blogs. I love that your “weird” (even though I don’t actually think you’re weird…) and share who you really are. How else are you supposed to get to know people? I hate the blogs that show life as shiny and pretty and awesome all the time.

Also, thank you for mentioning the Mormon hipster category. What’s with all the Mormon hipster blogs anyway???

ShoshanahFebruary 9, 2013 - 12:00 pm

I agree with so much of what you say. While I love my blog and have invested so much time and effort into it, I don’t really talk about it to others. And if someone ever brings it up, I definitely down play it.

And I too, would love to be a bigger blogger, and know if I stuck to one niche it probably would be easier. But I love posting book reviews one day and a cake recipe the next. They’re all things I love and enjoy doing, so why can’t they all be a part of my blog? And while I sometimes feel like a book blogger, may not want to read all of my food posts, I love the idea of getting someone who loves my cooking posts to discover the world of book blogging.

And just letting you know I’m stopping by from weddingbee, where I comment as Miss Ariel.

ritaFebruary 11, 2013 - 8:04 am

i love your blog! i think your friend was somewhat accurate in that, if you want to have a “big blog” it is probably easiest to have a defined category/point of view (and, ideally, big blogger friends) and post articulate, consistent content. but, i think you need to decide if you want a lifestyle or fashion or xyz category blog or if you just want a personal blog. personal blogs are more random and probably take more time for people to discover but if your writing is good and if people connect to you, they’ll read you (which is why i read you – your posts take more time for me to read than a random outfit post or collage but they resonate so it’s worth my time.)

actually – during the branding blog brunch you made a comment that really resonated with me – you said something about – do you really even want to create a brand for you/your blog? and to be honest, i don’t. while i do have some other projects i plan to brand the hell out of, that hour session made me realize that i really just want my personal blog to evolve as i do and to reflect my personal interests. and that will mean less opportunities for growth. but i’m still meeting amazing people through it and having great conversations, and that’s what i was going for anyways.

also – i didn’t tell anyone about my blog at first, so my friends found it randomly through twitter or after i had too many cocktails! but a lot of them don’t really read it very often – and that bothered me at first. and then i realized that they don’t really read any blogs, so it’s not that they aren’t interested in me, it’s just not a medium they are used to. i know they try to catch up regularly to stay up to date with me, but it’s just not their thing. and that’s actually a good thing b/c it’s opened me up to way more people and different opinions than what i get in my day to day.

ok i babbled. sorry! regardless – i love what you are doing so keep it up!
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AllisonFebruary 11, 2013 - 8:30 am

This is quite possibly my favourite post that I’ve read in a long, long time. You hit the nail on the head, and I think you’re bang on about everything you wrote.

I’m new to your blog, but I love it. You’re real and you write about yourself. The best kind of blog. We have similar blogs – the in-between, lifestyle blog that is simply about whatever you want it to be about. A place to write, post photos, talk about whatever the hell you want to talk about.

Keep on keeping on, I’ll keep reading.

xo

MoFebruary 11, 2013 - 8:43 am

I am EXACTLY the same way, but maybe even worse about it. As in I tell NO ONE about my blog. Well, my husband and parents of course – but you would never see me posting about it on my facebook or telling anyone about it. It feels SO narcissistic! I mean, (with the rare exception), I don’t feel like that towards any of the lifestyle blogs I read, so I have no idea why I’m so hard on myself about it. I don’t think I’ll be able to get over it, so I just keep reminding myself that I started the blog for ME so just keep writing it for me and it will be fine. Or it won’t – and that will be fine too.

KaitlynMarch 1, 2013 - 2:26 am

Thank you so much for posting this. One of the things that I HATE hearing bloggers say (write?) is that they don’t want to share too much of their personal lives. With the exception of professional blogs, I don’t understand this at all… what’s the point if you’re not sharing?!

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