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The other day I read an article titled “18 Things You Should Say Yes To,” which is, well, a list of 18 things that you should say yes instead of no to. I have mentioned before that I’m working on saying “no” less often, and while my goal isn’t necessarily to say no less often to invitations or events (I have a hard time turning down invitations, if anything), there are certainly times I find that my immediate response is NO.
Obviously, it is not realistic to say yes to everything (which is something I frequently have to remind myself, especially during the holidays), but as the article states “the sometimes overwhelming pace of modern life can make it tempting to operate in a default no mode. No to weeknight plans, no to the spontaneous drink or coffee with a friend, no situations or projects that are challenging but might ultimately help us grow. When you say yes to something — even when it can be time-consuming or intimidating or difficult — you open yourself up to a payoff that can make you question how you even thought about saying no.”
Though the list is rather juvenile it still made me smile, so I thought I’d share it here.
Say Yes to…
1. A day spent in your pajamas. Um, I have no problem saying yes to this. In fact, I probably say yes a bit too often. I can be quite a sloth. I’m very skilled in the art of doing nothing.
2. “Friday Night Lights.” Or “The Wire.” Or “Breaking Bad.” The article suggests any show that you have heard great things about but that you don’t feel like you have the time to commit to watching, and to that I say HELL YES! I have yet to find a show I love more than the phenomenal Friday Night Lights, and it is worth watching every single minute of it. I still miss Coach and Tami. And Saracen. And Riggins…oh, how I miss Riggins! According to the article, you deserve it, and you absolutely shouldn’t feel guilty about spending a whole day watching back to back episodes. I’m sure others would beg to differ, but hey, I’ll take it!
3. That salted caramel ice cream sundae. Life is short, eat dessert first. That’s my motto and I’m sticking to it.
4. Some help. As the Beatles said, “I get by with a little help from my friends.”
5. A party where you won’t know many people. I despise standing around awkwardly and engaging in random small talk with strangers, desperately hoping that someone will talk to me and make me feel like less of a loner, so this is tough for me. But, the article says bring a friend at least stop by. You never know whom you might meet and where life can take you.
6. Vacation days. Yet another thing I have no problem saying yes to. The reason I work is so I can take vacation. I’m always boggled by people who have a huge build up of vacation days. That’s never happened to me. I’m consistently verging on the red.
7. A long phone call with your friend who lives far away. This is something I need to work on. New years resolution 2013.
8. New technology. I don’t think bloggers have a problem with this, but I would certainly like to be better at some things. Photoshop. Illustrator. Finally learning to use my camera.
9. Your naturally wavy hair. My “naturally wavy hair” is straight as can be with random sections of fizz. Not my best look. I’ll be passing on that.
10. An electronic diet. Earlier in the year Kevin and I tried to institute a “no TV Tuesday” rule in our house. But instead of watching TV we basically just sat on our computers. I think I need to step it up a notch and institute a “no technology Tuesday.” I spend way too much time attached to devices.
11. A completely unnecessary but completely awesome outfit. A few years ago I was in Miami and I saw a dress in a window and became entranced. It was like I was under a spell. I walked in, pointed at the dress, and then handed my credit card over. It was ridiculously expensive, and to this day it is still the the most money I’ve ever spent on a cocktail dress. I was unemployed and in grad school so I shouldn’t have been spending money on something so frivolous, but you know what? I felt fantastic in it, and I was going through a phase where I’d been feeling the opposite of fantastic. I wore it that night and felt amazing. It was completely unnecessary but completely worth it.
12. Tahitian dance lessons. Or yoga. Or Zumba. Or African dance. Basically something that is out of your element. I’m quite certain it is not possible for my hips to move anything close to this, but I’m willing to try. After all, I did take African dance in college, so I can’t be that bad…anyone want to join?
13. Romance. Single or taken, a little romance is always a good thing.
14. Britney Spears, the karaoke version. Much to the dismay of those around me, I always say yes to Karaoke (though Britney Spears not so much).
15. Lunch away from your desk. I go crazy if I sit inside all day so I usually step out, even if it’s not long. Fresh air is vital to productivity.
16. An uncluttered inbox. Oh god. I can’t even imagine. My inbox is a disaster.
17. Dinner with an older person in your life. I don’t really have a lot of older people in my life, but this is a good reminder to prioritize those I do have.
18. The idea that things are going to work out. I really truly believe that everything happens for a reason, and I try my best to trust that things will work out. It’s a much better way of living life than being constantly worried and anxious. Easier said than done, but I try my best.
And there you have it. Number seven and number ten are the two that resonated most deeply with me.
What do you think? Is there anything on the list you’d like to say yes to more often?